When a woman first meets a guy, one of two things happens. Either
there is a spark that immediately begins to flare up between the couple
and causes the woman to want to pursue this relationship further to see
where it goes. Or the woman decides this guy is not really for her,
shrugs off the date as a bad experience... and moves on. How does she
know which way to lean? By determining if the guy has what she's looking
for.
But before a woman can determine if a guy has the qualities she admires and dreams to find in her ideal man, she first has to know exactly what it is that she will be looking for. It's easy to get caught up in a guy's good looks or his suave debonair and lose track of what he is really all about. If a woman can't scratch below a man's surface and penetrate into his heart, then she won't be getting the full picture of who he really is. This will easily sway her opinion and it won't be based on all of the facts. This will often lead to the wrong choice of guy for her and lead to problems down the track.
The worst possible scenario is to find a guy without knowing what it is she is looking for where qualities are concerned, and then trying to customize the guy to fit her mold after the fact. If she doesn't have a solid list of qualities in advance, qualities that are truly important to her, then she won't know whether or not she has found someone who fits her criteria.
This doesn't mean she has to list out 100 qualities that a male partner should have, because finding someone with all of them is unlikely to happen. A woman can't expect so much in the one guy that it will be virtually impossible to meet anyone who is a perfect match. Instead, she should list out a few of the most important qualities and focus on those. Qualities that are a must...
Once you have a condensed list, then you will be able to see a guy for who he really is. This also allows you to not have to compromise. While some of the qualities you are seeking can be negotiable... the important ones won't have to be. You will know after meeting him and spending time together if this guy is a fit, or if you need to back off and start your search all over again.
But before a woman can determine if a guy has the qualities she admires and dreams to find in her ideal man, she first has to know exactly what it is that she will be looking for. It's easy to get caught up in a guy's good looks or his suave debonair and lose track of what he is really all about. If a woman can't scratch below a man's surface and penetrate into his heart, then she won't be getting the full picture of who he really is. This will easily sway her opinion and it won't be based on all of the facts. This will often lead to the wrong choice of guy for her and lead to problems down the track.
The worst possible scenario is to find a guy without knowing what it is she is looking for where qualities are concerned, and then trying to customize the guy to fit her mold after the fact. If she doesn't have a solid list of qualities in advance, qualities that are truly important to her, then she won't know whether or not she has found someone who fits her criteria.
This doesn't mean she has to list out 100 qualities that a male partner should have, because finding someone with all of them is unlikely to happen. A woman can't expect so much in the one guy that it will be virtually impossible to meet anyone who is a perfect match. Instead, she should list out a few of the most important qualities and focus on those. Qualities that are a must...
Once you have a condensed list, then you will be able to see a guy for who he really is. This also allows you to not have to compromise. While some of the qualities you are seeking can be negotiable... the important ones won't have to be. You will know after meeting him and spending time together if this guy is a fit, or if you need to back off and start your search all over again.
Do you know the qualities you seek in a man? Making up a list of
the most important qualities you are not prepared to shift on, will help
you find Mr Right without becoming hurt from making the wrong choices.
For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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