Breakups can be really hard to handle, especially if you just
ended a long-term relationship. If often leaves you confused, torn and
emotional. Pretty grim, right? That's why no one really wants to go
through them. But sometimes you can't avoid them. So, if you're going
through a bad breakup, here are some tips to lighten up your day and
help you move on smoothly:
1. Don't beat yourself up. It doesn't matter what the cause of the breakup is. But most of the time, when things turn sour and you find your relationship going down the drain, you can't help but beat yourself up. You may often find yourself asking, "Why did it happen?" "Is there something wrong with me?" "Is it my fault?"
Don't. Your relationship ended because it's no longer working, period. It may be hard to admit. But that's the truth. Unless you cheated on your partner or caused major damage that led to your breakup, it's not your fault.
2. Cope with the pain appropriately. It's absolutely normal to feel pain. You wouldn't have gotten far in the relationship if you didn't feel anything. It's also fine to sulk and to isolate yourself from others in the beginning. While some people prefer to share their torn feelings with friends, others just want to be alone.
Just don't let yourself stay in a rut. Don't shut the world out and the people who truly care for you. Sooner or later, you need to accept the relationship is over and move on.
3. Get out and have fun. Occupy yourself with productive things that will help you take your mind off the breakup. Clean out your closet. Get a new hairstyle. Revamp your room. Hang out with your friends. Or do anything random like taking a walk in the park every day.
Focus on something new, take up a hobby you have been interested in, join a group... that will help you feel refreshed and happy, even for a while. Go on, it will make you feel better.
4. Get rid of the things that will remind you of the relationship. You probably won't need this tip if you absolutely want nothing to do with your ex. You probably got rid of all the things that came from him the moment he walked out of your life. But if you find it hard to move on, this is one of the best things you can do.
Remember you want to go on with your life. Seeing those gifts in your room will only bring back painful memories, especially if you can't help but look at them over and over. And that's the last thing you need. So get up and place those items in the trash or at least somewhere you won't need to see them.
5. Delete any of his email in your Inbox, or take his name off the mail folder so thoughts of him are not accidentally triggered.
1. Don't beat yourself up. It doesn't matter what the cause of the breakup is. But most of the time, when things turn sour and you find your relationship going down the drain, you can't help but beat yourself up. You may often find yourself asking, "Why did it happen?" "Is there something wrong with me?" "Is it my fault?"
Don't. Your relationship ended because it's no longer working, period. It may be hard to admit. But that's the truth. Unless you cheated on your partner or caused major damage that led to your breakup, it's not your fault.
2. Cope with the pain appropriately. It's absolutely normal to feel pain. You wouldn't have gotten far in the relationship if you didn't feel anything. It's also fine to sulk and to isolate yourself from others in the beginning. While some people prefer to share their torn feelings with friends, others just want to be alone.
Just don't let yourself stay in a rut. Don't shut the world out and the people who truly care for you. Sooner or later, you need to accept the relationship is over and move on.
3. Get out and have fun. Occupy yourself with productive things that will help you take your mind off the breakup. Clean out your closet. Get a new hairstyle. Revamp your room. Hang out with your friends. Or do anything random like taking a walk in the park every day.
Focus on something new, take up a hobby you have been interested in, join a group... that will help you feel refreshed and happy, even for a while. Go on, it will make you feel better.
4. Get rid of the things that will remind you of the relationship. You probably won't need this tip if you absolutely want nothing to do with your ex. You probably got rid of all the things that came from him the moment he walked out of your life. But if you find it hard to move on, this is one of the best things you can do.
Remember you want to go on with your life. Seeing those gifts in your room will only bring back painful memories, especially if you can't help but look at them over and over. And that's the last thing you need. So get up and place those items in the trash or at least somewhere you won't need to see them.
5. Delete any of his email in your Inbox, or take his name off the mail folder so thoughts of him are not accidentally triggered.
To help you move on to a healthier relationship... you will need
to ask yourself what emotions where at the heart of any problems you
experienced with your relationship? Find a healthy answer so you can
correct your thinking but don't dwell on it. Move on... you need to be
happy with your life before you can be happy in an intimate
relationship.
For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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