When what was once a close relationship breaks up, it's difficult
enough to move on with your life without the interference of someone
else. However, sometimes the relationship breaks apart simply because he
is leaving you for someone else. There may be many different reasons
for this, but none of them make you feel good. You might feel rejected,
sad and angry... all at the same time.
However, there are some rules to follow to make sure you don't get stuck in the "muck and mire" of the breakup. In the end, you have to move on with your life in a healthy way. Here are a few tips to help get you started:
1. Don't blame the other woman. This may be very hard to do because the natural inclination is to be angry with her. While you can have some anger directed towards this other person, the real fault lies with your partner. He was the one who had made a commitment to you, so your anger really should be directed at him.
However, anger will get you nowhere in the end. Take some time to feel the sadness and anger, and then vow you will move on with your life.
2. Stop looking for the "why". One of the most useless tasks that usually happens after a breakup is trying to figure out why it happened. You likely know it at gut level exactly why it happened anyway.
Assess your part in the breakup first. Look at what you could have done better along the way, take responsibility and work out why you acted that way. No one is perfect, so there is usually a little bit of blame to go around. However, don't try to assess why he left from his perspective, as you really may never know for sure.
3. Don't try to contact or find information about the other woman. It's very tempting to get on social media sites and try to find out as much information on this other woman as you can. Not only is it a waste of time, but it keeps you stuck in a part of your life that you need to let go. It makes you look desperate and crazy on top of that.
There are so many steps we have to take to move on after the breakup of an intimate relationship. It can be more difficult if there is a third-party involved. However, you have to remember this woman did not steal your man away from you. He left willingly for whatever reason.
However, there are some rules to follow to make sure you don't get stuck in the "muck and mire" of the breakup. In the end, you have to move on with your life in a healthy way. Here are a few tips to help get you started:
1. Don't blame the other woman. This may be very hard to do because the natural inclination is to be angry with her. While you can have some anger directed towards this other person, the real fault lies with your partner. He was the one who had made a commitment to you, so your anger really should be directed at him.
However, anger will get you nowhere in the end. Take some time to feel the sadness and anger, and then vow you will move on with your life.
2. Stop looking for the "why". One of the most useless tasks that usually happens after a breakup is trying to figure out why it happened. You likely know it at gut level exactly why it happened anyway.
Assess your part in the breakup first. Look at what you could have done better along the way, take responsibility and work out why you acted that way. No one is perfect, so there is usually a little bit of blame to go around. However, don't try to assess why he left from his perspective, as you really may never know for sure.
3. Don't try to contact or find information about the other woman. It's very tempting to get on social media sites and try to find out as much information on this other woman as you can. Not only is it a waste of time, but it keeps you stuck in a part of your life that you need to let go. It makes you look desperate and crazy on top of that.
There are so many steps we have to take to move on after the breakup of an intimate relationship. It can be more difficult if there is a third-party involved. However, you have to remember this woman did not steal your man away from you. He left willingly for whatever reason.
It is tempting to dwell on what you think you did wrong, but that
really isn't productive. All dwelling does is cause you to suffer.
Forgive yourself and look at what you learned during the relationship.
For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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